The book titled “The Courage Habit” by Kate Swoboda contains steps on how to take on courage as a habit by accepting fears, releasing the past and living your life.
Change is hard. To some, the thought of it is as uncomfortable as wearing wet shoes without the option of taking them off. Change can prompt feelings of stress and self-doubt. However, that discomfort can play the role of a catalyst towards something new and positive.
So instead of jumping into the next train to run far away from your fears, practice courage by engaging with your fear rather than avoiding it. Give yourself the permission to ditch what is familiar to find an even better alternative.
So, how can you develop the courage habit? Here are three steps:
1. Figure out what it is you really want. Imagine a state where your fears are non-existent, and you can achieve just about anything and while you are there pay attention to the things that you feel are most authentic. (Side note: You will know what it is once you have that “Aha” moment)
2. Identify what your fear routine is so that you can interrupt it. (You can get a break down of the 5 different fear routines by listening to this podcast: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OLv-NDvfm0E&t=1390s )
3. Reframe the stories you tell yourself about why you can’t be and do what you love because they are holding you back. Engage with your inner critic without letting it intimidate you and not forgetting to be empathetic towards your own struggle.
Most importantly, find your courageous community such as someone that will not only support you but also cheer you on as you take your courageous leap into the unknown.
In closing, consider this quote by Pema Chödrön: “When we resist change, it’s called suffering. But when we can completely let go and not struggle against it, when we can embrace the groundlessness of our situation and relax into its dynamic quality, that’s called enlightenment”